My reverse bucket list

This pic was likely taken the year I was diagnosed with epilepsy. 1976.

I’m just a few weeks away from turning 40 and feeling very uneasy about the whole thing. Saying I’m FORTY just doesn’t sound accurate or comforting in any way. But I’m determined to embrace it the best I can.

One of the ways I’ve been addressing this discomfort is reminding myself that 40 years in, I have a good handle on who I am and I’ve managed to do a fair number of things in my life.

Identity is important to me. My confidence has always come from tapping into what makes me Sarah—the good and the bad. There’s only one of me, right? Now I haven’t climbed Mt Everest or learned how to drive, but I’ve lived on my own in Newfoundland and I’ve found my way onto the tour bus of The Band—two experiences not to be forgotten and that have helped make me who I am.

In a way, I’ve found myself doing a reverse bucket list these last few months—in other words, recounting all the things I have managed to accomplish or experience in my 40 years on earth. Some may seem trivial but when lumped together, they make for a pretty satisfying journey thus far.  In no particular order, here are the drops that comprise my bucket on the edge of 40.

  • I’ve lived in no less than 28 different houses or apartments, in 5 different cities across Canada
  • I’ve worked at McDonalds, I’ve cleaned toilets, done retail, been a chambermaid, acted as guest liaison for Tom Green and a public affairs officer for our nation’s brightest researchers
  • I’ve asked Norman Jewison for his signature (not autograph) and had him say in return “Sarah Wilkinson! I’ve been seeing your name all over the place. Nice to finally meet you!”
  • I’ve sat beside Rick Danko and Levon Helm on a tour bus and even got to sing a few bars of a song with Rick.
  • I’ve climbed heights great enough (Mt Garibaldi) to experience colder air and less oxygen
  • I’ve visited Jimi Hendrix’s grave
  • I lived with epilepsy as a child
  • I’ve been a stand-in on a Canadian feature film, Dirty
  • I’ve had books influence who I am and what is important to me – The Catcher in the Rye, The Beautiful and Damned, The Death and Life of Great American Cities…
  • I’ve had movies do the same — Saturday Night Fever, The Last Waltz, Manhattan, Frankie & Johnny, The Big Chill, Goin’ Down the Road
  • I’ve gotten piss drunk a few times and have partaken of a few other mind-altering substances
  • I’ve had Plantar’s warts, a blue nevus, mono, scarlet fever, a broken arm, a total thyroidectomy, a C-section, ingrown toenail surgery, mistakenly stabbed my palm with an X-acto knife, and experienced roughly 10 vasovagal episodes in my life.
  • I found my husband and my oldest son on the Internet
  • I’ve seen UB40, Indigo Girls, The Northern Pikes, Crash Test Dummies, The Tragically Hip, Steely Dan, The Band, Lauryn Hill, Ben Harper, Jamiroquai and Van Morrison in concert
  • I’ve written letters to the editor
  • I’ve been on a school bus with a keg of beer and no bathroom
  • I’ve voted in many an election
  • I’ve been on a French exchange that was a disaster and flew home early
  • And last but by no means least, I’m a mother at age 40 of 2 dear and distinctly different boys who enrich my life in the most delightful ways.

Not bad, I must say. And with average life expectancy on the upswing, my life is really only half over, right?

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The Dark Horse is released

Thought-provoking little booklet handed out at the release of The Dark Horse Conversation: Nonprofit Leaders Talk About Vocational, Organizational and Civic Renewal

If you’ve ever wondered if you were in the wrong occupation or felt you ought to be doing something more meaningful or reflective of yourself, read on. Last night, I had the privilege of attending the release of The Dark Horse: Nonprofit Leaders Talk About Vocational, Organizational and Civic Renewal–a paper produced by Pat Thompson, Metcalf Foundation Innovation Fellow and Visiting Scholar at Massey College.

I’ve noted before on this blog that Pat is a friend and mentor of mine who has lent me her ear on a number of occasions. In addition to being extremely bright and insightful, Pat is infinitely curious–a quality that in my view always makes a person that much more interesting and engaging. A navel gazer, she is not. She is immensely intrigued by the vocational paths people choose and what  may or may not make them take the path less traveled, or the path that invokes trepidation. Needless to say, she is encouraging when it comes to facing one’s fears or turning a preconceived notion on its head.

In conjunction with the release of The Dark Horse paper, Pat has also launched onealphaavenue.org - the home of good conversation about work and vocation. It’s sure to evolve into a lively online spot for people to share stories and seek guidance on their own vocations and how they can best land on, or jump off with both feet, to a place that brings them joy and satisfaction.

Lucky me, Pat has featured my personal story on the website. And for the record, I’m still searching, both internally and externally.

As a take away at last night’s release party, Pat handed out the cool little booklet that you see above. A conversation piece to be sure, with plenty of thought provoking questions and quotations.

Some may be quick to dismiss a question like ” What is my life telling me about who I am?” as flaky. In fact, I could easily be classified as that dismissive type. But at this stage in my life, when I’m at a vocational crossroads, I figure I owe it to myself to examine all angles.

What have I got to lose? Certainly not a job.

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There’s no place like Ottawa

It's safe to say this is where my sons will learn how to skate. Iconic Ottawa.

I’ve been riding a rollercoaster of suburban lament since we moved from Toronto to Burlington in June 2009. You’ve heard me get all wistful for Toronto, decide to return to Toronto, consider moving to Hamilton, and finally convince (kid) myself that I could make Burlington work for the long term. Call me messed up if you must, but the final decision is practically carved in stone. We’re going to move to Ottawa.

Allow me to justify.

There’s no other way to cut it–I’ve been consistently unhappy, a shadow of my former self, since we moved to Burlington. Every time I visit a proper city like New York or Toronto or Edmonton, I’m reminded that I’m a city girl. I practically salivate at the sight of indie retail, an urban cyclist with attitude or a hydro pole full of rusty poster staples. And let’s not forget, diversity and tolerance–the lifeblood of any decent metropolitan city.

Ottawa is the city where I feel most myself. I went to university in Ottawa, worked many jobs in Ottawa, lived the bachelorette life in Ottawa, got married in Ottawa. My brother and sister and closest friends live in Ottawa.  I know Ottawa. I get Ottawa.  I feel like I belong in Ottawa.

Don’t worry—it’s not all about me. Ottawa is also a great place for my boys to grow up. Culturally dynamic with its bilingualism and national capital perks, like museums galore, incredible festivals, crackling political debate, skating on the Rideau Canal and close proximity to Montreal and rural Quebec. Yes, it’s colder than a motherf&cker but it’s also wintry in the most delightful way.

And my other boy, my husband, is on board with the whole thing too. Albeit, he is the sensible, frugal, rational half of this relationship, so his enthusiasm and anticipation is far more tempered than mine. Plus, this move hinges on him finding a new job and that’s always fun, right?  (For the record, he’s a senior software developer with C++, multi-threaded, algorithm, team lead experience).

But for all my Burlington slagging, there’s certainly aspects I will miss. Above all, I will miss my parents. In addition to being an enormous help in countless ways, and wonderful grandparents, I plain old love them very much and am truly a composite of the two of them. My restless nature? I get it from Pam and Al. :-)  I’ll miss the proximity to these dear and important people in my life.

I will also miss our incredible babysitter, Cassandra. What an amazing gal. Huddy and Ewey will miss her even more.

And Lake Ontario. And our pretty little neighbourhood with street names like Beaver and Pepper. And last but not least, I’ll remember Burlington as the city where I found my civic engagement mojo.

Rest assured, I’ll be bringing that mojo to O-town.

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Cheer cheer for PCVS

Very old postcard of PCVS (in the background) and cenotaph in the foreground. I attended many a Remembrance Day ceremony in that park as a teenager.

Yesterday began with a real downer. I found out that my high school, PCVS (Peterborough Collegiate Vocational School) was set to be closed down by 2012, thanks to a rather insensitive, ill-considered vote of 7-4 by Kawartha Pine Ridge District School Board. 

Said to be the second oldest school in Ontario (established in 1827), the heritage argument comes easily in dire moments like these. It’s old, it’s noble, it’s a part of our history—leave it alone. But there’s a lot more to it than respecting the old mort by virtue of his age. (Yes, I’ve always associated PCVS with the male gender for some reason).

A letter I wrote yesterday appears in the Peterborough Examiner today — my individual attempt as part of a larger collective to get the people in power to rethink this nonsensical decision.  For those who don’t live in Peterborough and the surrounding area, here is the letter:

I just heard the news. PCVS is closing and I am truly stunned by the ignorance behind this decision. This is a massive mistake that will have repercussions for years to come.

PCVS cannot be compared to other Peterborough schools. It stands alone—rough around the edges but regal in its history and purpose. There have been a lot of arguments about the fact that its arts program is what makes it unique and valuable but as an alumnus who was there before the program began, I say there’s much more to it than that. 

Closing PCVS is the equivalent of severing the metaphorical limbs of Peterborough’s downtown. You are essentially removing the social
vibrancy and economic engine of youth. You are shamelessly erasing a piece of our city’s heritage that is far richer than you realize. 

In an age when big box stores threaten the independent spirit of downtowns everywhere, when child obesity is at an all time high, and urban sprawl is a knee-jerk decision by developers, you’re killing an institution with immeasurable value to the city—a school that kids walk to, a downtown that kids loyally patronize and a location that is smack in the middle of the province’s Places to Grow urban growth legislation for Peterborough.

The shortsightedness of this decision is astounding.

Sarah Wilkinson Banks
Burlington, Ontario
PCVS Class of 1991

I have yet to see the paper and they don’t appear to feature their letters to the editor online but I think it’s safe to assume that mine won’t be the only one that appears today. Expect a deluge.

For interest’s sake, PCVS has produced some notable alumni including Canada’s 14th Prime Minister, Lester B. Pearson, droll comedian, Sean Cullen, Broadway actor, Graham Rowat, accomplished musicians Serena Ryder and Rick Fines, and the supremely successful businessman, Jim Balsillie, co-CEO of RIM.

I don’t consider it hyperbole to say PCVS is a star in its own right. The place has serious gravitas and walls that can tell endless stories. There’s a Rudyard Kipling quote engraved in the auditorium that always commanded attention:

“Stand to your work and be wise–certain of sword and pen—who are neither children nor gods but men in a world of men.”

Food for thought on a day where many of us feel angry, misunderstood and wrong-done-by.  Stay the course, keep up the fight, keep that fight clean and peaceful and remember we’re all in this together. Great things can happen on a level playing field.

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Suburban life? I’m down with it.

Kicking back at a suburban kaffeeklatsch in Park Forest, Illinois. 1954. "In the 1950s, one-third of Park Forest wives were college-educated, but few worked outside the home or even left the neighborhood during the day. Many women met over coffee, attended self-improvement classes, and became involved in local community issues. Life could be lonely and isolated for women who didn’t become part of a group."

Just when I thought I was forever alone in my tug o’ war about being a city girl living in the ‘burbs, there’s a  hot new topic in town. Everywhere you look there’s an observational take on the country mouse/city mouse condition. The current issue of Toronto Life pulls you in with a tongue-in-cheek alarmist cover story headline of “Mass Exodus to the ’Burbs” and then makes it downright trendy and appealing  with its inner story of “The New Suburbanites” by Phillip Preville. In the June 27th issue of The New Yorker, Nicholas Lehmann questions the longstanding romance of cities in Get out of town – Has the celebration of cities gone too far? . According to Lehmann, “If you’re not socialized to think the suburbs are for losers, you’d be nuts not to.” (live in the suburbs). Even HGTV has gotten in on the game with a new show debuting on August 31, entitled Urban Suburban featuring dualing (urban) brother and (suburban) sister real estate agents vying for homebuyer affection.

But for every pro suburban take, there’s a voice of gritty, urban opposition. Most amusing is the parody of the Toronto Life article put forth by Torontoist but there were also some pretty staunch, intelligent defenses of big city life and rightful criticisms of the Toronto Life piece as well. Edward Keenan of GridTO was quick to point out that the ‘burbs outlined in Preville’s  article aren’t actual suburbs but instead “similarly-styled small-town” versions of their former Toronto neighbourhoods—Dundas is to Cabbagetown as Peterborough is to Riverdale etc. John Lorinc’s rebuttal in Spacing magazine is worth a read if only for the 50 some-odd comments it generated. And I enjoyed Peter Kuitenbrouwer’s go-eff-yourself line to Preville (who left Riverdale for Peterborough) “I hope he grows a big vegetable garden, because this is probably the last feature that Toronto Life will buy from him. Perhaps he can found Peterborough Life.”

This is all supremely fascinating to me because I find myself smack in the middle of the argument (and as an interesting sidenote—I grew up in Peterborough, the “suburb” Preville now calls home).  I’m in the middle because I love (LOVE) city life but I’m learning to appreciate suburban life. I agree with Keenan and others that the cities noted in Preville’s article do not qualify as suburbs per se.  They are cities and towns and villages, each with their own unique history and personality. They are not limited to houses made of ticky tacky and big box stores. In their defense, places like Uxbridge, Burlington, Creemore and Dundas are all spots with a good dose of character and activity. But the big distinction is this—they are not Toronto. And therein lies the challenge for someone like myself.

Many of you have heard me whine about the absence of quality coffee in Burlington. There is no Darkhorse, Mercury Espresso, or Ezra’s Pound in B-town. We are left with Second Cup, Starbucks, Coffee Culture and Williams.  Mediocrity at its finest. Ironically, the attractive family on the cover of the Toronto Life now resides in Dundas (20 minute drive from Burl) where they opened their own Toronto-worthy coffee bar/cafe called Detour. I’m pretty sure I’ve tweeted to them at least 3 times about opening up a shop in Burlington. I think they’re drowning out my pleas with the magnificent hum of their espresso machine.

As always, I’ve let the conversation digress to the subject of shitty coffee. Back to the subject at hand — how Burlington and its quaint, sleepy town counterparts will never be Toronto. And that’s OK. I hesitate to use the phrase “resign myself” when speaking of my/our decision to remain in Burlington. It’s simply not fair to Burlington. And it’s really not the case. Rather, I’ve challenged myself to make the most of it here and perhaps even influence its evolution over the coming years. Sound a little cocky or presumptuous? So be it. If I can make Burlington just a sliver more metropolitan in the next 10-15 years, I’ll be tickled and presumably so will all the other Toronto ex-pats who have taken a chance on it.

Ah, you laugh. But FordNation is making some T-dotters rethink their future in Hogtown. Perhaps Burlington is the next Bloor West Village. And Hamilton is the next Junction. :-) Crazier things have been known to happen.

In the meantime, I may just have to embrace the suburban experience all the way and start my own Detour coffee kaffeeklatch like the ones described by William F. Whyte in The Organization Man. If anything, it will help fill my depressing Mad Men void right now.

You can call me Betty.

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The desk is a dangerous place to view the world

Burlington Mayor Rick Goldring meets with Portland Mayor Sam Adams - June 7, 2011

Burlington is a conservative city. There’s no way around it. As a certified lefty, I have to reconcile it on a regular basis. Not easy, let me tell you. A lotta teeth gnashing and hair pulling to contend with. I produced a fine powder in my mouth and lost a few strands this morning when I read Councillors rebuffed in Swedish trip request in the Burlington Post. Read the article to get the full picture but in a nutshell, this involves two councillors (Paul Sharman (Ward 5) and Blair Lancaster (Ward 6) seeking money from Halton Region to attend the Symbiocity Sustainable Urban Planning Tour (Sept 17-24) in Sweden. Their request was unsuccessful. Instead, they were subjected to conservative, penny-pinching ballyhoo from fellow councillors.

Mayor Rick Goldring attended this same tour in 2009 when he was a councillor. This was reason enough for two more councillors two years later to be rejected. Ward 2 Councillor, Marianne Meed-Ward (a woman I respect very much, as many of you know) was on the side of rejecting the request. Attempting to glean what sustainable initiatives were implemented in Halton as a result of Goldring’s 2009 trip, she asked “What’s been the impact of the last trip?”  Many would argue that Goldring’s response lacked the tangible substance Meed-Ward was seeking but I disagree whole-heartedly. This is what he said:

“I suggest with everything we learn, everything we read, every conservation we have we’re building on our knowledge and understanding of each issue,” he said.  “Is it worth the money we spend sending councillors to FCM (Federation of Canadian Municipalities) events? We’re building on a foundation of knowledge.”

Well defended, Mr. Mayor. In my view, fiscal responsibility should not take the place or trump the importance of an informed and inspired council and staff who are determined to stay ahead of the curve for the future of their city. 

Paul Sharman made his case intelligently and succinctly:

“The desk is a dangerous place to view the world.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself.

It’s interesting to look back at an article published by the Burlington Post in 2010 when Goldring presented a 75-page report on his trip. The positive feedback is worth revisiting:

From Ward 4 Councillor, Jack Dennison:

“As most of you know, my belief is that nobody should go on a trip at the taxpayer’s expense unless they’re going to make themselves a better councillor.  Rick, I think you’ve not only made yourself a better councillor but you’re making the rest of council better. You’re leading the leaders or training the leaders.”

From Mayor of Oakville, Rob Burton:

“In the past, there has been, I think, ignorant criticism of councillors when they take a trip to enlarge their understanding of issues.  Here I think you’re beyond criticism because you’ve brought back such a wealth of knowledge and I think some very supportable pointers to the future.”

From Halton Hills Councillor, Jane Fogal:

“Great, great job. We should keep sending people to these things.”

Last month, Mayor Goldring proved that what he learned from his 2009 trip has stayed with him and he has a desire to learn even more. He wisely tacked on a working trip to the uber-sustainable city of Portland, Oregon when he had a wedding to attend in Vancouver. He actively shared his findings on-the-go via social media (everything from the staggering statistic that 48% of Portlandians use transit to get to work, to the presence of green space and public art in downtown Portland). These actions on the part of Goldring demonstrate to me a person with foresight and civic aspiration—something Burlington desperately needs.

Painting this request by Sharman and Lancaster as an unnecessary want that needs to be shelved in the interest of fiscal responsibility is extremely shortsighted in my view.  The real cost of such constraint will ultimately be seen in varying degrees of ignorance, apathy and status quo dealings at City Hall.

Progress will be a strange and unusual concept in this staid and stubborn little town.

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The Slow Trajectory of Sarah Banks’ Vocational Path

At a Halloween party in 2001 with my bright and amusing Newfoundlander boss, Emad Rizkalla.

I’m cheating a bit with this post. It’s not fresh. It’s re-purposed but still very timely. A friend and mentor of mine, Pat Thompson gave me the task of writing an article about myself. I had mentioned that I was interested in working with The Stop Community Food Centre and she shared this article with me. It’s about Nick Saul, the founder of The Stop, and it’s a fascinating read about his childhood, youth and how he ultimately ended up doing what he does. Pat  asked me this: If the Star wanted to write a story about you like this one, what would it say?

This is what I wrote:

The Slow Trajectory of Sarah Banks’ Vocational Path

Those close to Sarah Banks say she’s a bit of a late bloomer as far as her career motivations go. As one of those kids fresh out of high school and catapulted into university, she was unsure where her interests and strengths lay so she was content at the time to do a general BA and see where it took her. Her ultimate film studies designation was a bit of a fluke—it was the program that snagged her a spot in the residence lottery at Carleton University.

University was a positive experience for her. She managed to acquire all the requisite good stuff that comes with life on campus—lifelong friendships, the ability to argue critically and constructively, a favourite drinking hole and a memorable prof or two. But when the all-important piece of paper arrived in the mail (she didn’t go to her convocation), she wasn’t exactly feeling well-equipped for life in the 9-5 world. The truth was she still didn’t know what she wanted to do. Or even what she was good at. (except downing pints and kicking up her heels to a Pogues cover band).

Not one to idle however, she took on a retail job on Front St. in Toronto and got her first bachelor pad. A year later, she thought she’d see how far her film studies cred would take her in Vancouver. The answer was not very far. She volunteered as a production assistant and stand-in on the Canadian feature film, Dirty and worked more retail—this time in tony West Van at a shop called The Avant Gardener.  Seven months later, west coast weather was just too much to bear for the sunshine-dependent gal.

She returned to her hometown of Peterborough and soon found herself in what would be her first not-for-profit gig—a program assistant at the Peterborough LETS Exchange, a local economic bartering system. She was intrigued by the concept and proceeded to offer her own service in the system. Under the unregistered business name of “Clean Slate”, she offered a home organizing service (something she was naturally gifted at and quite enjoyed).

But the money sucked and she wanted to get out of Peterborough. She missed her old stomping ground in Ottawa so she applied to a one-year certificate in Festivals and Events Management at Algonquin College. She got in and enjoyed it but never finished the program. 6 weeks shy of completion, during her internship on The Tom Green Show; she was offered a job that was too good to pass up—a job that would prove to be her calling card in the future. The job was Executive Assistant at the Canadian Film Centre in Toronto. In addition to learning the art of managing a high maintenance board of directors, she also cut her chops in the world of fundraising and development with high level donors like Alliance Atlantis and Cineplex Odeon. It really was an unforgettable chapter.

Then the dot com era arrived and anyone and everyone were being hired for positions like Director of Fun and Grand Poobah of Digital Domination. How could one not be enticed by tossing Nerf balls in the office at 2pm and nap rooms? Luck and a bit of given talent were on Sarah’s side when she decided to apply for a writer position at non-linear creations—back in Ottawa. The job was great fun, with extended lunch breaks in the Byward Market and the dawn of a new era of style guides when it came to marketing writing. The freedom and informality was intoxicating. But all good things must come to an end and Sarah’s demise at non-linear came in the form of a pink slip. She had a good sob and an 11am beer with her fellow turfed comrades and soon realized she had rent to pay and a summer vacation planned for Newfoundland that may not happen. So she did what any other smart single girl of 29 would do. She ended her lease and went looking for work in Newfoundland. Go ahead, laugh. But she had fairly swift luck and landed a job as a marketing coordinator at a B-to-B web solution company on Signal Hill and got a sweet one bedroom in the heart of St. John’s. She made some great memories in her seven months there—among them, a cabbie stopping his meter to buy her baloney and a Pepsi, having breakfast beside Judi Dench on the set of the Shipping News, and dunking her shoed foot in a bucket of water for a Screech-ing In ceremony.

But life on The Rock was isolating and she missed her friends and family back home—so she returned to Ottawa and humbly couch-surfed while she sought her next opportunity. She turned 30 during that couch surf session and that made it all the more humbling. It had been 6 years since she got her BA and she had yet to land firmly on her feet—at least that’s how it seemed to her.

Not long after the less than celebratory milestone birthday, she was hired as a copywriter at the Ottawa institution of Corel Corporation. It provided a decent learning curve as it operated with an in-house ad agency environment but the content was lacking character, so when she received her second pink slip, there were no tears. And her next job would prove to be the best paying of her life and perhaps the one that instilled the most pride. It would also be her last job in Ottawa before she met her Edmonton-bred husband.

As a public affairs officer for the Canada Research Chairs program, Sarah was responsible for promoting the work of Canada’s top researchers in hard science, medicine and social sciences. It was an enormous challenge making things like neuroethics and  biometric sensors accessible to the average Canadian taxpayer but she relished the role and the knowledge she gained as a result. She was sad to leave—though happy it was for love.

Between her move to Edmonton in 2003 to be with her future husband and where she is now in 2011, in Burlington, Ontario, working on contract as a communications manager for the YMCA of Hamilton/Burlington/Brantford, Sarah had a few more gigs—including freelance writing, a marketing manager position at United Way Toronto and motherhood—the latter being full time/permanent with many perks but also certain drawbacks. Sarah battled infertility but had great luck with the adoption of her son Hudson in 2007. She thought for sure Hudson would be an only child, so she was stunned to find out she was pregnant with son #2, four months after starting a home staging business with an old girlfriend. The business was scrapped when her friend got pregnant 2 months later.

At 39, almost ten years after her humbling couch surf in Ottawa, Sarah’s life has changed vastly in certain ways but little in others. She now has a family of her own that brings her great joy but also an enormous amount of responsibility.  Once quite self-assured, she is quick to tell you that aging has chipped away at her confidence somewhat. On the cusp of 40, she can’t help but wish she had had greater clarity about her passions and strengths earlier in life. Yet, despite her mildly fragile state, she finds strength in knowing that even though she may be a late bloomer, at least she has bloomed. Now it’s a matter a finding which garden she wants to flourish in.

So how has she bloomed exactly? Well, she knows what she cares about (cities, young people, community engagement, opportunity for all, making a difference, rooting for the underdog). She knows what gets her excited (progressive thinking, risk taking, social innovation, arts and culture, smart design) and she knows what her turn-offs are (complacency, old-school thinking, red tape, excessive policy and procedure, narrow-mindedness). Sound like an attempt to draft a personal ad? Well, it wouldn’t be a far-cry from what Sarah is currently pondering—she really is looking for her perfect match in the career world. Thankfully, she also has a firm handle on what her talents and attributes are (writing, working in a team setting, big picture strategy, positioning, respect for others’ ideas, sense of humour).

Sarah would be loathe to say she’s drawn to orgs that “think outside the box” because the phrase is so overused, it’s almost inside the box itself. But she does dig places that are challenging the status quo and finding great success. She also loves the idea of reinvention—whether it be an industrial space completely re-imagined and put to use for the community, a lawyer who gives up life in the courtroom to pursue his dream of running a bike tour company or the evolution of Hamilton, Ontario from Steeltown to creative industries mecca. Sarah finds reinvention clever and invigorating, and it never ceases to amaze her what can be possible when something is turned on its head.

Deep down, the 39 year-old mother of two with a resume as long as your leg knows she’ll find her place—the place where she’ll feel valued and bring value. The place where she’ll get a charge out of what she’s doing—if not every day, at least once a week. The place she will become an ambassador for, outside of work hours because she thinks what they’re doing is so fantastic.

At the end of the day, it will be the place where she belongs.

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The boom of Hume comes to B-town

Christopher Hume. The man speaks my language. And then some. Photo credit: Randy Risling

It’s no secret, I feel like somewhat of an outsider here in Burlington. On the rare occasion that I spot someone with the potential to be like-minded (I’ve got excellent radar in this regard), I have to get a hold of myself and rein in my inclination to exhibit bizarre gestures of desperation. “Hey there! You look like my kind. Open-minded, progressive thinker with an appreciation for sarcasm, sustainable development, humanity and CBC Radio. Wanna be friends?”

I had to exercise particular restraint this past Tuesday when I saw the wise and wonderful Christopher Hume speak at the Inspire Burlington speaker series hosted by Mayor Rick Goldring. I felt like he’d arrived on the mothership (in this case, the GO Train) and I was more than ready to be transported back to Planet Toronto with him.

In case you don’t know, Mr. Hume is the wry and outspoken architecture critic and urban affairs reporter for The Toronto Star. He knows what makes for a great city and he doesn’t hesitate to let you know when Toronto (or in this case, Burlington) isn’t making the grade.

As a relatively new Toronto transplant, I too have not held back in my criticisms of B-town. Occasionally, I sense I may have a few behind-the-scenes foes who don’t share my disdain and wish I would shut my trap.  So it was nice to have a little validation with Hume’s expert insight in the room.

Among his many observations, Hume feels the design of Burlington leaves much to be desired. “A lot of Burlington’s problems are design problems,” he said. He shared some less than impressive slides of forgettable intersections and nondescript streetscapes. He gave moderate credit to the dynamics of the stretch of Lakeshore Blvd occupied by Pepperwoods and Benny’s but was quick to note that the romance only lasted one block.

The important thing, he said, is not the height. “It’s how the building meets the street. Is it interesting? Is it engaging? It’s what’s happening at the street level.”

Early on in Hume’s presentation, he put it right out there for the 150+ crowd to chew on—”Burlington is run by the development industry.” I’m pretty sure I clapped the loudest. Right on, Hume. Tell it like is.

As a member of the Burlington Waterfront Access and Protection Advisory Committee, I’m especially interested in what goes on behind closed doors with city staff and the Robert Moses‘ of Burlington. Not surprisingly, I’m skeptical and have my doubts that the development deals being done in this town put the needs of residents first. But I’m also resolute in my desire to show that we (the lowly residents) have have more power and influence than we may realize. And we’re entitled to it, to boot.

But I digress. Back to my hero, Hume. One of his more gentle reflections was that “the buildings are the buildings but the important thing is what happens in between them.” In other words, the opportunity for urban vibrancy and life in general to occur is made possible by a combination of both organic goings-on of humanity and thoughtful long-term planning decisions.

There is a unique one-shot opportunity for Burlington to succeed in achieving this urban design magic, described above.  I would love to know what Hume’s thoughts are on the Old Lakeshore Road Precinct. Aside from hazard lands, the City owns none of this precious parcel on the downtown waterfront. It is owned by a combination of developers and individuals. Condos *will* be built there and we as citizens have an opportunity to influence what this prime chunk of land will evolve into.

It won’t be easy but it’s also not impossible.

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When I was younger, so much younger than today

Back when all I wanted to be was a "kite lady"---a lady who sells kites. Circa '77.

For a girl who always felt just a little bit mature for her years—a girl who dreamed about being 35 when she was 22—a girl who was mistaken for teacher on duty at recess because she liked to wear her mom’s trench coat, this girl (ahem, woman) sure is having issues with her impending 40th birthday.

Granted, it’s a good 10 months away but really, I’m in my fortieth year and there’s no turning back the hands of time.  It’s looming.

Some say it’s the new 30. Or the new black. I keep telling myself that. But 40 just doesn’t sound right to me. It doesn’t sound sage and self-assured. It just keeps nattering in my ear “Your life is half over. Is this all there is?” Yes, please go ahead and tell me I’m an ungrateful human being who is completely unaware of the wonderful things in her life. I’m just being honest. There’s a reason why the mid-life crisis exists. I’m not the only one who feels this way.

I keep thinking there’s something else I’m meant to be doing. I keep second guessing my occupational station in life. As someone who has a general aversion to rigid authority, policies and procedures, stodgy thinking—I often wonder how I’ve survived my 9-5 communications gigs. Working with cool people certainly helps. (Shoutout to United Way Toronto!) But I’ve tried the freelance life and that didn’t work either. Working to get work isn’t my idea of fun. Taxes are a soul sucker too.

I keep coming back to what I’m passionate about and can’t for the life of me figure out how it represents an occupational path. Here’s what I love in no particular order:

  • City life
  • Urban design
  • Independent retail
  • Entrepreneurial spirit
  • Arts and culture
  • Marketing
  • Writing
  • Vintage modern style
  • Reinvention
  • Turning things on their head
  • Sustainable design
  • Big picture thinking
  • Young people
  • Community development
  • Bold thinking

I like pesto, Hall and Oates and road trips too but that doesn’t really apply here.

I never used to be a second guesser. I knew what I wanted and ran with it. Nobody could stop me. Not so much anymore, sadly. It’s like early onset dementia. I’m confused and not sure what my next step should be. But one thing I do know is that I want that next step to be meaningful and satisfying. I want to fully tap my talents and get joy from what I do.

Any guesses on what that next step might be?

When I was younger, so much younger than today,
I never needed anybody’s help in anyway.
But now these days are gone, I’m not so self assured,
Now I find I’ve changed my mind, I’ve opened up the doors.

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An extraordinary man

John Boich. Photo Credit: http://www.flickr.com/photos/creativetrade-offs/5243681443/

I’m having a hard time concentrating at work this morning. On my way in on the GO, I learned via Facebook that John Boich had passed away. My heart sunk and I leaned my head against the window. John was an incredible man and without question, he had an influence on me.  I met him shortly after I moved to Burlington. He played an active part in Burlington Save Our Waterfront and I had the pleasure of sitting alongside him at many meetings.

 

John was many good things. Among them, he was bright, thoughtful, inquisitive and inspiring. He would listen intently to one’s conundrum and provide them with the most insightful advice or solution. He gave you no reason to think that something wasn’t possible. It’s safe to say he operated with a  “power to the people” mantra and felt that we as citizens had an invaluable voice that deserved to be heard. And he heartily encouraged us to exercise that right.

On top of all this, he was just plain delightful. Just two months ago, I wished him a happy birthday on his Facebook wall. His reply?

Thanks Sarah. I’ve rolled double 7s. How lucky can one get?

Lovely man, he was. I’ll miss him.

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